Children away 8 to 10 hours a day, and/or one or both parents out of the home for 8 to14 hours a day. Whatever anyone could form their lips to call this, it sure isn’t called ‘ok’, ‘good’, ‘beneficial’, or otherwise. It’s quite twisted, actually, yet most in ‘civilized’ societies are forced to live this way, and most don’t even realize how horrible it really is.
I was talking to a friend of mine about how much my husband works. He and I both work a lot of hours, but i’m usually working at home. She said to me ‘Oh now! I can’t do it! If I wanted to be a single mother, I wouldn’t be married! I had to tell my husband he needed to reduce his hours, and I meant that!’.
At the end of the day, she knows that everyone is just doing whatever they feel they have to, but I completely felt her every word. It was like like ‘WOW! that is THE feeling! This feels like single motherhood, except with extra income. Yet, society at large doesn’t seem to see anything wrong with this, and there seem to be few options to the contrary.
I began to wonder how many other women felt this way. How many others are frustrated with it? I believe that it’s past time for more of us to have crucial conversations with our spouses, to work toward creating a more beneficial home environment for everyone involved, and to form support groups with individuals who share common core beliefs.
In many ancient societies, such issues would be non-existent, because the village was made of many fathers and many mothers who took part in the rearing and protection of the children. We may not be able to get back to that exactly, but I believe that a serious endeavor to have some form of it needs to be underway in our communities.